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Jaybo’s Body Truth! 

Hi readers and truth seekers! One of the things I do believe in is body positivity. The media makes su think our bodies should look a certain way if we are to be taken serious; I disagree. I think that we are all beautiful and we all have the bodies we have so why not celebrate and take care of them? That’s one reason I’ve started a new project: Jaybo’s Body Truth. You can see my first Instagram post here. Please follow and check it out. It’ll be a personal journey, that I’ll be sharing, hoping to move others into celebrating their bodies!  

I’ll be back with some more interesting stuff, until them I hope you guys lead fabulous lives. 

Live to laugh one more day, 

Jaybo 

“Gays for Trump” denied entry into Pittsburg Pride Parade. 

Hey, guys so, it’s pride month obviously and I’m gonna talk about about my Pride experience in a post later, but this is important. I’ve always been taught “If you don’t stand up for something, you’ll fall for anything”. And that’s how I feel about this whole “Gays for Trump” movement. You  an be a Gay Republican and still fight and stand up for your community, I’ve seen it. But, to support a man and his administration, who is in such opposition to who you are is Ridculous. A man with nor regard for diversity and minorities. A man who hasn’t acknowledged Pride month. 

I’m sorry, but if you expect to be welcomed into Pride, into our bars, into our lives with open arms, you’re sadly mistaken. You support a man who has said awful things about other minorities. Yoive turned your back on the community and everything that people DIED for, that you’ve been given today. You either have some self loathing you really need to work out, or you’re a rich, white person, that they can look past the gay in. Meaning they don’t actually accept you, you’re just getting a pass, and still will lose your rights. Fox news…(I knowwww) posted this article and I’m using it for a reason. Read it here

Here is the thing. Yes, Pride is about inclusion and it’s about acceptance, however, that’s not an excuse to just let anybody do and say whatever. These people in this organization apparently have a history of trolling the community and trying to impact certain policies of discrimination. Just as they have the freedom to do and say whatever, the pride committee has the freedom to tell them no. Remember friends freedom of speech is just that a freedom. It doesn’t mean it’s devoid of any social consequences from other who think what you say constitutes hate speech or some other form of divisive speech. 

Let them get angry, let then try to sue, but remember, you’re aligning yourself with a President who did nott even acknowledge the fact that it is LGBTQIA+ Pride month. And who is working with people who want to take away our rights. Believe what you want, say what you want, but those are the facts and that doesn’t align with the ideology of Pride. And don’t get me wrong, that’s not to say that the LGBT community is perfect in anyway, there are problems. But, we try to keep Pride peaceful and loving. And having a group that has the reputation this one does, being involved, would’ve disrupted that. You may not agree with it, but that’s the decision that was made. 
But, let’s look at this another way, if a religious organization or some other organization told s gay group they couldn’t be a part of something because “they don’t align with the ideas and values of the organization” the same people, the person who wrote this article, would be praising them, and not understand why the gay organization is angry. You can’t have it both ways. 
Donald Trump isn’t a President for the community, people can believe whatever they want, but facts and figures will tell you that. The organizers didn’t want anything relating to him or his administration there, so they said no. And further more, I’m sick of people now claiming that liberals are more unfair and less about equality. No, American liberalism isn’t perfect, but it’s all very obvious rhetoric to turn people against liberalism. Because, again facts and figures will show which side favors equality more. 

The fact is, these people did not believe that the organization aligned itself with the values of Pride and the Parade. The organization support an administration that is not LGBTQIA+ friendly, and have supported discriminatory legislation and policy before I’m the past. Pretty much fighting against themselves and their own community. They thought it’s be best if they didn’t show up, so they said no. I

Note: in the article the organizer of “Gays for Trump” said that people don’t always agree on elected officials and that is true, but this president has no regard for diversity or equality, and works with those who are fighting against YOUR community. So, “Gays for Trump” really check your privilege. That’s all I wanna say. Really look I’m the mirror, what are you putting before your community, your identity, and yourself? Is it the color (or lack thereof) of your skin? Is it some weird ideology of being “less gay”? Whatever is get it in check now and see which side of history you are standing on. 
Another note: learn your history, Pride started out as a huge protest against a government that discriminates against queer people. I’m sick of people just trying to water down. It was a bloody event where people were wounded and carted off to jail. People like “Gays for Trump” need to remember that as well. 
Live to laugh and love another day,

Jaybo

A Read by Jaybo: Don’t come for my artistry. 

So, I just had a conversation with someone on Facebook who was an acquaintance in high school. The topic was Lady Gaga. He posted an article for the LA times, and it was about her Coachella performance and how it fell kinda flat after the first half. Which is fine, I wasn’t there I can’t say. He’s not a fan of the new Gaga and that’s fine. So, I made a comment just starting conversation about the new Gaga and where she is. Literally just stating my thoughts on what the article said…and this bitch just decided to come for me. And pretty much acted like I had no idea what I was talking about, because “I’m in marketing”. Ugh! I literally studied performance, and I was just talking to another artist about art. 

Then he tried to tell ME that I was just following the gay mainstream. First of all bitch, I’m my own mainstream. Secondly, who the fuck are you to tell me how I feel about things? I almost wanna post his name so y’all can go troll his ass, but I’m gonna keep it cute. But, how dare this,queen come for my fucking artistry. Lady Gaga is an artist who grew up with people telling her she couldn’t do it, or it wasn’t possible. Not to mention she uses such fascinating imagery in her work. She is a true artist. All she wants to do is make her Music and do her thing, which is what we all want to do. 

And people be complaining about how they don’t like her new sound and they’re not fans anymore, well good! Trim the fucking fat because you weren’t a fan in the first place. It’s not like she just dropped the ball and did something horrible, she just did something different. If that something different wasn’t your thing, cool that’s fine. But, I enjoy it because I feel like she had something to say and she finally as an ARTIST said it her way! Yeah, she has some gimmicks, but gimmicks are how you stay in the fucking business. Then this fucker, we’ll call him Derrick Berry, tried to say that her new gimmicks aren’t to his liking…OKAY? You are not her, or her manager, or her PR team. 

Ugh, whatever…I’m just really sick of this trend of Queer men “coming for eachother” and “throwing shade”. Especially these catty ass white Queer men who think it’s “cool” or “cute”; that shit isn’t about being a petty little bitch…in short I unfriended his ass and then he messaged me with this dumbass message : “Awe yay you best me to it on the unfriending good job. Have a great life bro. Accept who you are and quit trying to make your perspective sound special” but, set it so I couldn’t message back. That was kinda douchey to say, but if you ever read this know this:  

You need to grow up. And I hope you do. You said that I was trying too hard to make my perspective special, whatever that means. You just dogged on me and like laughed because I was explaining something passionately, when you’re only real argument was like you were in marketing and could knew about marketing…I’m sorry but are you marketing personally for her? You would even discuss it forreal. And like you said “I’m an artist, too.” But, couldn’t give me anything forreal to back up, artistically, what you were saying. You also, kinda made the assumption that I was some how, slow or dimwitted and or that I was just following some crowd to devalue what I was saying?  A real artist would at least respect another artists opinion and try to see where they’re coming from. You, however, don’t have any respect. You go around toting this whole idea that you’re on a higher plane of existence, but really you use art to hide your insecurities, not explore them. And, i hope some day you do. But, you gotta be,willing to listen and give positive energy to others. Get off your fucking high horse because you’re making a little coin out in West coast, and learn some goddamn respect. Seriously, it’ll make life so much better. I hope life treats you kinder. 

And with that I’m going to bed. Night all!

Live to laugh another day! 

Jaybo 

Happy 2017!!

Ding Dong! The witch is dead!!! 

And that witch is the year 2016! 2016 was a really tough year, a lot of crazy shit went down. But, I will say that I experienced A LOT of personal growth! So, in 2017 I wanna experience even more. I’ve adopted the phrase “New year, improved me”. Because I’m not becoming a new person, I’m just moving closer to who I am in the grand scheme! I encourage you all to go on a similar journey this year! It’s a journey of love and discovery. You’ll learn so much you didn’t know and things you already knew will be solidified! 

Thank you all for reading and following this blog in 2016, I hope you continue to follow me into 2017 more fearless, because I am definitely more fearless! 

Be looking out for some new material, and a Webseries I’m working on with my really good friend “2 for the tea!” And I’ll be expanding my own youtube channel. And my brand. Remember find your aesthetic and represent it always! 

Live to sing another day,

Jaybo (the somewhat peckish artist) 

Motivation/Man Crush Monday: Get ya ass up, show me how you BEARlesque!

This is coming late as hell, I know. Life is hard for a theatre practitioner, sue me. But, I had to get this up, because I am so excited about this. So, this is the first time I’ve ever interviewed anyone for this blog. So, the title of this has a lot to do with the subject of my interview. First let me start off with, I added this person on Facebook first because, well, I thought he was really hot. We all do it. But, then I discovered something very interesting…he’s a burlesque dancer…or Burlesque entertainer as he calls himself. I’m talking about the Indy King of Bearlesque, WAYNE KING! 14650656_1772521046356961_2498088703562727847_n

Woof. Right? Yeah…I know. Not only is he handsome, but he’s a very talented performer and just a super sweet guy! Ahhh…I feel so hip and cool, we had a convo over Facebook and just talked about Burlesque and life. I had such a great time getting to know Wayne as an artist. I really want this blog to represent all types of queer people and I think this is definitely the start of that. And without further ado, here is the interview!

  • So, first question, and I know it’s not creative, I’m just curious; when did you come out of the closet?

  • Wayne King

    I was 15. I knew before sooner. I would say I was like in the 7th grade, and I knew?

  • Jalen Brown

    Cool. That’s pretty young, how did your family take it? Did they pull the whole it’s just a phase thing?

  • Wayne King

    I told my parents on New Years Eve at midnight over the phone. I could hear my dad’s tone shift. And my mom didn’t know how to react. She’s a Polish immigrant. From what I could tell as a youngin that catholicism was the religion of choice there and it was a big no no. I think my dad came to terms with it a lot faster than my mom. They seemingly love my husband. We just don’t bring it up a lot and that’s fine. love my parents, they did a lot for us, but they are just a certain way. We respect each other to still be family.

  • Jalen Brown

    You know, that’s really great to hear. A lot a lot of people don’t get that, and I think it’s quite amazing. So, you’re married you said. How long and who’s the lucky fella?

  • Wayne King

    Been together 10, married 2, and his name is Tim.

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  • Jalen Brown

    Cute! That’s awesome, congrats! Okay, so now that we know a little bit of personal history. Let’s talk what you do. You dance burlesque, correct?

  • Wayne King

    I wouldn’t say dance. I always say I am a burlesque entertainer. That takes away from those who are way more talented than I and breath, eat, sleep this stuff.

    Also, I have two left feet.

  • Jalen Brown

    Hehe. Okay, Burlesque entertainer. Have you always been interested in entertaining? Did you perform at all as a kid?

  • Wayne King

    A few school plays here or there. Burlesque just kind of fell in my lap. I heard about an open audition. I was on the verge of losing my job and had nothing to lose. I knew burlesque was body positive so I wanted to see some of that myself.

  • Jalen Brown

    Cool, as a person who does theatre for a living, I’m always curious if other types of performers start young like a lot of theatre actors/dancers. So, we’ll get back to body positivity. So, you auditioned. What exactly did that consist of?

  • Wayne King

    Learning a little choreography. It wasn’t too difficult for most. It challenged me a little because I’m not used to that kind of learning. Then we had an interview. I think there may have been like an emote with your face bit.

  • Jalen Brown

    So, I guess those school plays helped a bit, huh?

  • Wayne King

    Right. I’m naturally an overly emotive face person.

  • Jalen Brown

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    Was it for a troupe? Or just for single performers?

  • Wayne King

    It was a troupe putting on a show, though it was an individual performer’s show with the help of Angel Burlesque to put it on. So, they were looking for independent performers too.

  • Jalen Brown

    Right on. Before I forget where are you from?

    Or where do you currently reside?

  • Wayne King

    From Chicago, live on the Northside of Indianapolis currently.

  • Jalen Brown

    Cool. So, how long have you been a burlesque entertainer? And do you be long to a troupe?

  • Wayne King

    Almost 3 years. 3 years in March to be exact. I am a member of Creme De Les Femmes.

  • Jalen Brown

    How many of the almost 3 years have you belonged to Creme De Les Femmes?

  • Wayne King

    Only about a year now, in November.

  • Jalen Brown

    Cool. So, how did Tim feel about it? Was he supportive?

  • Wayne King

    Tim will always tell me whatever makes me happy, to do it. Obviously within means. He’s not like, if you like Crystal Meth do that. Haha.

  • Jalen Brown

    Haha. Good to know that he’s supportive, but not enabling destructive behavior. So, how often do you perform? And is there somewhere we could watch one of your performances?

  • Wayne King

    Usually monthly to at least bi monthly.

    Yes, I have a YouTube channel.

    Let me see if I can figure this out link correctly.

  • Wayne King

    Wayne King Burlesque
    youtube.com
  • Wayne King

    It goes in chronological order. Hopefully it shows a progression. Lol.

  • Jalen Brown

    Haha. Awesome, I am looking forward to watching these. The art of burlesque has always interested me. Would you talk a little bit about what it means for you and how it’s affected you?

  • Wayne King

    It means the world to me. It’s helped me get so much better about feeling good with my body. I know beauty fades or looks go, but it’s so much deeper than that. I’ve made connections, fans, I’ve traveled with it. I get the occasional message that says I help them feel better about themselves. It’s taught me to costume.on a budget and how to trust some and others less. Be professional. Spread a message.

  • Jalen Brown

    That’s really awesome. It’s great when you discover something you love and you can just throw yourself into it. You said it helped you feel better about feeling good with your body. We all have our body issues, but is that something that really affected you before starting burlesque or when you were younger?

  • Wayne King

    Oh yeah, very much so. At 19, I got pretty skinny but that was from way under eating, working out, going to school full time and work as much as I could. I struggled with body images a lot. Even within the bear community, there is a bunch of malarkey that happens there. You can be big but you better be hairy or else you only appeal to half. But I can’t even complain about this. There is such a lame white sensibility about it all. I think sometimes it hard to recognize privilege when you aren’t called on it. But you notice things and it’s sickening and wished you fought for it all along or called it out.

  • Jalen Brown

    Hmm…wow. So, you’ve dealt with both ends of the spectrum. I must agree, though, with what you said about the bear community and I won’t even get started on privilege, we can have that conversation later.

    You’ve battled body issues on both ends of the spectrum and here you are, proud of who you are and loving yourself. Now, I know not everyone realizes that male burlesque performers are among us, are there any other men in your troupe? And, to your knowledge, are there a lot out there?

  • Wayne King

    I’m the only male in my troupe. Men only makeup a small amount.

  • Jalen Brown

    Hmm…why do you think that is?

  • Wayne King

    It was just primarily a women’s profession or career. I’m not sure if there were men back in the day.

  • Jalen Brown

    So, just an industry standard. Would you encourage other men to try it? Just from your own personal experience?

  • Wayne King

    Very much so but don’t half ass it. Do what your burlesque sisters are doing. They have to wear pasties, you wear pasties. They’ll appreciate you doing the same things they have to.

  • Jalen Brown

    That’s really cool advice. I guess if you’re really gonna do something that is somewhat of a society, you should immerse yourself in the culture. Okay, just couple more questions.

    You make your costumes, do you also choreograph all your numbers?

  • Wayne King

    For the most part. When I’ve been in group acts, it’s a dynamic. But solo stuff, I pretty much come up with.

  • Awesome! So, when you’re not on stage in your skivies, what do you do? What pays the bills?

    Also, I’m living for your “Birdcage” performance.

  • I’m an assistant manager at a pet supply store. I went to school for journalism but it’s a hard field.

    Thank you! Lol.

  • You’re very welcome, you slay with those flags! That’s cool, the great world of retail! Haha. Journalism is indeed a hard field to get a foot in. Any thing specific you wanted/still want to do with that?

  • I’d like to find a voice. Something queer related and pop culture. My areas of expertise.

  • Awesome! That’s everything I want to celebrate with this blog. There need to be more voices out there like that. So, any last thoughts? Anything you like to add about burlesque or just yourself in general?

  • Wayne King

    Just honestly to love and support yourself. It’s really easy to give into what society wants. Buck the trend. It’s the most punk rock thing you can do.

  • That’s great! Thank you so much for answering those questions and talking to me. It was really cool getting to know a little bit about burlesque from a male performer and getting to know how you feel about the art.

    • Of course. Anytime! Have a good night.

     

     So as you can see, Wayne is such a cool guy. I think what I love is when he talks about how Burlesque has made him feel about his body. Body positivity is very important to me, and I think that’s why I’ve always been so fascinated with Burlesque. I definitely would like to try it myself someday! It really is a passion, and I see that passion in Wayne. For these reasons, he is my Man Crush/Motivation Monday! Thank you Wayne, it is a pleasure to know you and i hope we keep in contact!
    Live to Laugh another day,
    Jaybo (the Somewhat Peckish Artist)

Yes, you can be fat and queer and attractive!

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“Fat & Gay”: One Man Struggles For Acceptance In A Post-Grindr World

That’s the title of a post from NewNowNext, the biggest queer media outlet. I thought this was interesting, because I have dealt with this issue as well, especially as I have gotten older and the rose tinted glasses were lifted. Honestly, the word fat is still a bit triggering, but I’m learning to not put so much weight (Ha!) behind it. I’ve learned that it doesn’t have to be negative or make me feel negatively about myself.

But. watching this video just once again reaffirmed the fact, that you don’t have to have the ‘perfect body’. Why? Because it doesn’t exist. Even people who we deem having perfect bodies find flaws everyday. Just because you have some extra meat on your bones doesn’t mean you are not attractive or that no one wants you. Unfortunately, in the day community, that is really hard to grasp, because, like Martjin in the video, we have all been attacked if we’re gay men of girth. So, what, I have moobs and a belly. I can still be confident and sexy, why? Because I freaking love myself. Listen, the one bit of advice in this video that I don’t agree with is the chasers thing. A person does not have to be a chaser to be attracted to you if you are chubby.

What happened to personality or how kind someone was. Even how well someone dresses. We don’t even look at people’s faces anymore. It is all about abs and pecs. But, that is not all there is. There’s someone (several people) out there for all of us. We just have to find the person who sees past all the shallow bull of the community and get to know you and your body. You are beautiful. We are all beautiful. I truly believe that. God made us all beautiful creatures. Just believe in yourself. Now, get out there and go ask that hot guy out! You never know what might happen if you are confident!

Hope you enjoy, check out the video above and like NewNowNext for more stuff like it and other queer stories.

Live to laugh another day!

TSWPA