Dating while black.

Hello everyone!
Hope you are all having a great Sunday!

So, this has been something that I’ve been thinking about a lot lately. And it’s mostly something that I think is more a problem in the south. Dating and being black is kinda hard. Now, no this not some “systemic racism exists posts”, it is just that literally when you’re a gay black male in the south it can be hard. Let me tell you why. When you’re on an app like Growlr for example, sometimes the fact that you are a black male is grounds for someone to immediately ignore you.  Now, I get it a lot of black men have approached me in very unsavory ways and I am black, but also so have guys of every ethnicity. It happens in public a lot too. I’ll be checking a guy put of flirting and of course, he’ll be more interested in my white friend. And I don’t get it. The fact that I am black shouldn’t make me unattractive. That’s just dumb. But, on the other end of this, my fellow black gays…stop approaching people like they are prostitutes or escorts. I can’t count how many times I’ve been sent a message like, “aye what’s gud, u lookin thik af, let me see dat ass.” Like not even a hello or how are you. Now granted a lot of these apps and things people use for hookups, however at least prove you’re a civil person. Also, don’t type like that. We have such a reputation for being uneducated and not as smart, so speak like you have some sense. Which could very well be a part of the problem. However, that doesn’t mean you generalise all of us. Just like I don’t generalise all Hispanic people, or Asian people. Just because we may have a skin color in common doesn’t mean we’re all the same. And we’re gay, we’re already both men, the only way to change it up, is maybe date another race, I date men of all colors and sizes. Open up your world! It would be boring if we all dated a doppelganger that looked and acted exactly like us. Our community is represented by a rainbow flag after all. So, get out there and experience the rainbow! Don’t shut out an entire race of people because of stereotypes and generalizations!

That’s a subject I’ve been wanting to talk about for awhile. For my straight male counterparts and even my female counterparts, straight and gay, do you experience this as well? Also, people who aren’t from the south, is this also a problem for you? What do you think? I wanna hear from people! Hope to hear from you all!

Live to sing another day,
The Peckish artist
Jalen

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