Grindr. For those of you who are straight and don’t know what it is, it is a gay social networking app. Yes, a dating app. I have nothing against dating apps honestly, I’ve used then, my favorite probably being Growlr. However, Grindr has always left a bad taste in my mouth. I guess partly because I had a college boyfriend use it to cheat on me, and then he got caught up in a lot of trouble with an underage boy because of the app too. Since then, I’ve had the app used it off and on, maybe met a couple guys, but mostly nothing. Also, where I’m from in the south, sometimes gay men have a strange sense of entitlement and this weird thing about race. People on Grindr in the south are either complete sluts, douchebags, or they just ignore you be a use they feel like they are in a different league than you. Now, I am a chubby, yet fairly attractive black male, but most people on Grindr in the south just see some black guy and are like “no”. But, I’ve discovered that’s not the case everywhere. Yes, while here in Buffalo I downloaded the app again. I have no shame, I’m in a new place and I thought it be a way to meet some new people, and maybe even have a kicks in there. I thought I would seriously regret the situation…but come to find out, I didn’t.
I always felt that I had to be the one to message someone on Grindr that nobody would ever just message me put of the blue. Being here in Western NY has proven me massively wrong. I’ve had multiple guys message, and some of them were really nice and actually wanted to talk about more than just where they wanted to put they’re dick, or where they wanted me to put mine. It was quite refreshing to see that the app can be used for what it was originally created for. Now, of course there are those that still feel that they are too good for you, or like you’re beneath them, but that’s to be expected, this is the gay community (that’s another post, for another time). But, overall I think my thoughts about the app have been changed for the better. Will I continue to use it once I’ve left Buffalo, I don’t know. But, I’m just really glad that app isn’t a complete wasteland of desperate, thirsty people.
Live to sing another day,
The Peckish artist